A double standard by blogger Shaleen.

“Double standards aren't anti feminist,” according the author of the AskMen column “It’s a Man’s world,” Ian Lang. He calls double standards insipid logic, that bases the entire argument on general assumptions. His arguments has some depth but then again, he is also using general assumptions in his article “The Double Standard.” If anyone has read the column, you’ll know what I’m talking about. (I have added the link down below)


True, women and men are different but people are equal in value rather than size or quantity, which is what Ian Lang is arguing against. His point is trying to argue that women basically have it easy. If a woman want’s to go out and pick up a guy, she is giving him what he wanted in the first place. If a man went out and tried to pick up a woman, he would have to have “game” to even get a chance at sleeping with the girl. What I’m understanding is that women can’t go out and have sex with random strangers because men don’t have the capacity in many situations to say no. I beg to differ. Another situation this author has pointed out is that if a woman starts bragging about her sexcapades aka sexual escapade, she would be classified as a slut. I've been on this earth for a couple of years now, and I have heard many men do the same thing. Although, not once have I heard anyone call them sluts.


There is still a big double standard that women are not sexual creatures. Women are held to a certain extent. Women who have a lot of sex are tramps but a women who does not is a prude or virginal. It goes the same for men also, a man who have many female friends is a heart breaker and those who are the opposite are classified as geeky.





http://www.askmen.com/entertainment/austin_600/662_double-standards.html

No means a big No - by blogger Snehal Gajare

"Consent"- What is it? Is it important? Who cares? How dare she refuse me?........ And then the male chauvinist monster attacks the girl/woman. He forgets that he is denying her the basic right of voicing her choice about what is happening to her mind and body. As a woman I strongly condemn such an act where a woman's right of bodily integrity and autonomy is not only neglected but crushed. Every woman on this planet has the right to say "No".  It’s simple, ‘No’ means a clear, big and bold “No”.

When 'Yes' is easily understood and accepted, what's the issue in understanding and accepting its antonym 'No'? A study conducted by United Nations by surveying 10000 men in 6 Asia Pacific countries (the word “Rape” was not mentioned, instead men were questioned if they ever forced a lady to indulge in sex) has revealed that "sexual entitlement" (a mindset where a man considers that he has an automatic control over the body of woman irrespective of what the woman wants) is the trigger that drives men to rape women. Another shocking outcome of the survey was that some men admitted to raping women for entertainment to fight boredom. A small set of men cited anger as the reason for forcing women.  Shut Up! Wake up Guys! Come out of your world of fantasy. Rape is not a joke; it’s a heinous crime that seizes the entire existence of a woman, leaving her soul panic stricken, wounded for life. Furthermore, our ‘so called patriarchal society’ depicts its double standards by drowning the Rape victim into the pond of shame with a tagline "It’s your Fault"; whereas the excuse used for the rapist is “After all he is a man, he has desires”.

Consent plays a key role in most of the sexual assault cases; as it impacts the entire prosecution process. Consent can be determined by various factors: Age of consent (the victim consenting was below the age specified by law for having sex), Inability to consent (if the victim consenting was insane, mentally retarded, intoxicated), withdrawal of consent; (if the victim gave consent out to fear, embarrassment, coercion, helplessness and later withdrew) the violation of these can attract the offence of statutory rape. In simple sense, sex without ‘consent’ is Rape.

As a feminist I intend to ask a question to the society, - The rape victim is blamed for her rape, for the injuries inflicted on her body and her mind; despite her constant refusal to entertain the advances of a man. So, what should be the punishment for the rapist who so "innocently" rapes a woman, thrashes her self- esteem, insults the essence of womanhood thereby uprooting her existence and destroying her life; against her will and consent?