With the changing of times and advancing of technology, it is now possible to keep in contact with our significant others more often than a decade ago, thanks to text messaging. Now we can send each other cute messages in the morning rather than calling and possibly waking the other from their beauty sleep. Texting has become very important to everyday life and crucial to relationships. If our boyfriends or girlfriends don’t reply to our texts, we begin to worry, especially if we have no idea where they are or what they are doing. Worrying is normal when you cannot get in contact with the person in any way, shape, or form. Today, some of us will worry or take it personal when it takes someone longer than 10 minutes to reply to a text. When this happens, some people will then send the message again or more messages asking where the person is…
In a relationship, one might see their significant other texting them so often as a sign that this person really cares about them. This is “cute” at first, especially in new relationships, but it can take a scary turn quickly. Some of us might find ourselves in a situation where our boy(girl)friend asks us where we are every hour that we are not with them, who we are with, what we are doing. Multiple texts turn into constant phone calls and arguments. The thing about texts is that you can’t read someone’s emotions, unless they specifically state their current emotion. This could be a sign of someone who has jealousy or trust issues, but it could be the sign of someone who needs to be in control of another person. Many people do not realize it, but these are many times early indicators of abusive relationships. The arguments over ignored texts and missed phone calls turns into verbal abuse, and that is often followed by physical abuse when the controlling partner reaches their breaking point.
If you find yourself or even a friend complaining about a significant other’s obsessive texts and/or phone calls, take that as a sign to really look at the relationship. Sit down and have a serious talk to explain your feelings and see what the other’s intentions are by doing all of this. Remember, there is nothing wrong with having your own personal free time away from your significant other; you always need personal time, whether that’s time spent alone or with friends. If they can’t respect your personal time, you might have to cut them loose. It’s not always easy to see the signs, but now we know another way to protect ourselves and even our friends from getting caught in a dangerous situation.
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